Sunday, July 8, 2012

Moustaches, Mustaches and the Proper Victorian and Edwardian Accoutrements for Them

"There is no worthier accomplishment for a man with a moustache than to take soup in an inoffensive manner… and by no means should the moustache be used to strain the soup." Cornelia Dobbs’ 1908 "Guide to Manners"

Example of a U.K. made, all silver moustache spoon c 1880s

In the 1800s, dining etiquette dictated that one have the correct utensils and other accoutrements at the dining table to be fashionable.  Men with food in their mustaches were not fashionable in the least, so spoons and guards were invented for them.

 My husband had a bushy mustache that he was very proud of in his younger years.  He has talked about growing it back, now that he is in his 60s.  I thought he looked rather dashing in the 1970s.  Now that his hair has thinned out with age though, I have been curious to see how he would look if he decides to regrow his.  He is still debating the issue with himself however, while I am perusing Ebay and other sites for mustache spoons and mustache cups.  There are none currently listed on Ebay, but I did find a genuine 1894 antique moustache spoon for sale (like this below-left), but in silver plate, with a price of $899.00 I think it really belongs in the hands of a serious collector.

1894 California Expo Mustache Spoon


English author and poet, Rudyard Kipling once wrote of a woman who had complained that being kissed by a man who'd not wax his mustache was like "eating an egg without salt".

Rudyard Kipling
Mustache cups are easily found, yet the mustache spoons are  not always easy to track down. Invented in the latter half of the 1800s, when mustaches were worn by the most prominent of men, including a few Presidents of the United States, genuine moustache guards, clips and spoons are hard to come by. Though moustaches have made comebacks over the years, everything for mustaches except for mustache cups, seemed to fall out of favor until the 1970s.
Theodore Roosevelt

Chester Arthur
Grover Cleveland









Reed & Barton Moustache Spoon, courtesy of Maura Graber

Several reproduction mustache spoons were made in the early 1970s, alas not in steling.  I may have to settle for one of those in silver plate.  
Olympian Mark Spitz

Moustaches made a huge comeback in the 1970s, due to the likes of Robert Redford, Olympian Mark Spitz, Rob 'Meathead' Reiner and Burt Reynolds.
Rob Reiner from "All in the Family"

Burt Reynolds



They are fairly easy to find on sites like Ebay and Ruby Lane, though many sellers list them incorrectly as "sterling."  And depending on who is selling them, the spellings for searches can be either "mustache" or "moustache" due to the fact that Mustache is the U.S. spelling of the word and Moustache is the preferred spelling in all major varieties of English other than American English (aka British, Irish, Australian, etc...) Check out 'Grammarist' to see the differences explained.  I cannot decide which I prefer, so I am using both!
Britain's King Edward VII


There are quite a bit of antique mustache combs, in sterling and in silver plate available too, so if you are in the market for gifts your moustachioed man would like, they are plentiful.  Finding things like these gems below, might be a bit difficult though.



1882 Moustache Guard to hold one's mustache up


1876 Mustache Guard Which Clips on to a Cup

Moustache Guard for Spoon
Design for a Moustache Spoon 1890
  

Wednesday, July 4, 2012

Reminiscing About A Victorian "Sunflower Tea" with Maura Graber

Lovely

 "Upon the tea-table everything was in sunflower harmony as far as possible.  Down the center of the white table-covers were strips of the dotted swiss worked in the same style as the aprons." from 'A Sunflower Tea', 1895

Back in 2007 while I was still learning about etiquette and how to teach it, Maura Graber (the wonderful woman who trained me at The RSVP Institute of Etiquette and who helped me figure out how to do this blog) had been perusing some old magazines prior to my scheduled phone call. Wanting to learn everything I could, I asked what she was reading. "The Delineator" was her reply. That sounded like a magazine on physics or science to me, but she then went on to tell me about the article she had read on a sunflower tea.

Tea Crystals that Maura Graber's doctor told her to get whilst fighting a throat infection.  She loves the brew.
Funny enough, Maura is not a tea drinker.  Unless it is crystallized chrysanthemum tea, she doesn't care for the taste of tea. Hosting teas are not 'her thing' either.  She enjoys attending them, but says they are just buffets where tea is served as the main beverage. As she doesn't drink tea, taking tea at tearooms regularly, other than getting together with friends, does not really interest her.  When I first asked how she put teas on when teaching etiquette, she shrugged her shoulders and said it was the least favorite type of event at which she she is asked to speak.

She then went on to tell me why.  She said, and this has been my experience too, that the focus is always on the British customs.  So when she is a speaker at an afternoon tea, she tries to pepper her presentations with bits of information about Russian tea rooms and their history, Russian samovars, yerba mate tea, South American tea drinkers, Chinese teas and Japanese tea ceremonies, etc...  Very helpful and many attendees have been appreciative of her adding those bits on cultures they may be more familiar with.
Patented 'Design of a Tea Shop Sign', from 1881

 I am, on the other hand, a tea enthusiast! Tea Parties that I put on for the grandchildren and their friends at church are the highlights of my year!

"Cold ham and tongue, chicken salad, thin bread and butter, buttered tea biscuit, and tea and coffee formed the more substantial part of the menu."  from 'A Sunflower Tea', 1895

 So when she asked if I wanted to hear the story of the "Sunflower Tea" from 1895, I gave an enthusiastic, "Yes! Please!"  Cup of tea in hand, (mine, not hers) she read the article aloud to me.  Enchanting!



Now I wish to share it with everyone in the blog-o-sphere, so posted here is the copy that Maura Graber emailed to me. Tea enthusiasts, enjoy :)

  

Basic Tea Manners and Etiquette-

  • Arrive as punctually as possible and if you will be more than 10 or 15 minutes late, call the hostess to apologize and to let her know.
  • Greet your hostess when you do arrive.  If you have had a trying day, do attempt to keep a smile on your face.   You don't want to be a 'Debbie Downer', whiny or depress everyone around you, especially if the tea is a celebratory tea for some occasion like a bridal, or a baby shower.
  • Always use a napkin, along with any utensils the hostess has provided.
  • If you are hosting the tea party, you can choose the order with which to serve the foods, however if you want your guests  to be thrilled they received the invitation to your tea, then by all means let guests eat in what ever order they choose.
  • Eat as neatly as possible, finger foods and foods for which you are provided utensils. Never lick your fingers! Tempting as it may seem, you may not be invited back.
  • Place the teaspoon on your saucer.  Iced tea is the only beverage one can drink properly with a spoon still in the tall glass.  And that is only if there is no saucer or iced teaspoon caddy to rest the spoon into.
  • When taking tea, keep that pinky finger down.  Raising one's pinky finger is an affectation that developed in the lower classes many years ago.  It was based on a truly mistaken notion regarding the upper classes.
July 1929 The Duke and Duchess of York with their young, Princess Elizabeth- Enjoying a "Tea Party"





Many thanks to you, Maura.  I would not have done this without a nudge from you and the photos you contributed.